In the hot sunshine I finally feel the summer holiday coming, and it made me realize that it’s been a year since I came to the Netherlands. How time flies..
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. and I haven’t even had my own Dutch romance yet!
Summer is the happy time for fun, parties, holidays… but it’s also the sad time for graduation, for us international students to stay here or return home, and for all international couples to decide if they’ll stay together or break apart. Right now, all over campus, so many couples are struggling with the heartbreak that comes with saying goodbye to each other.
Shuai, one of my best friends here, must return to China after graduating in August, because she couldn’t find a job in Holland. Her boyfriend, who she’s been with for almost three years, however, chose to stay at TU Delft for a PhD, which means he’ll spend at least four more years here! Two years ago they came to Delft together as MSc students, but now for their future professional careers they’ve made different and difficult decisions. Faced with a four-year separation and the huge geographical distance, what will happen to their relationship? Do they have a future together? Nobody knows. But they’ve promised to wait for each other. Good luck!
And how about getting married now? I’ve heard of several TU Delft couples that plan to get married. Marriage is a way to stay together if one has an opportunity to stay here and the other doesn’t. But can such marriages work out well? I doubt it. Thinking about the life of the one who doesn’t have a job – in most cases the woman – with a TU Delft Master’s degree but having to stay at home, as a housewife, cooking, house-cleaning, endlessly job searching every day…. Marriage under such circumstances really is a sacrifice for love! For love, things are not always easy.
Yes, summer’s a tough time for us international students. “I think I fell in love,” my friend Linda said, looking into my eyes with a serious face. “Really? I replied, “that’s wonderful!” Linda and her boyfriend met at a student party three weeks ago. They’re both exchange students here for one year. Linda’s from the United States; her boyfriend is from Norway.
“But sweetie, what will you do in two weeks when the semester ends?” I ask. “Will you go with him to Norway?”
“No,” Linda replied, “we’ll have to break up. You know, it’s just a matter of time. We may spend this summer together, but finally I’m going back to America.” I could feel the sadness in her heart. “Isn’t that thought painful?” I asked.
“I feel it very hard, but it’s also quite strange,” Linda said. “I feel I’m in much deeper love this time, but maybe it’s also easier because I know I cannot be together with him for long, so I’m not worried or afraid of anything…I’m free just to love!”
So dear readers, summer’s coming, are you ready for it? I’ll be spending the summer in Holland, where I hope to finally have my own hot summer sexy Dutch romance! And if I’m lucky in love, I promise, I’ll tell you all about it next year!
‘Asian Girl’ Yi Ya’s next column will appear in Delta 26
In the hot sunshine I finally feel the summer holiday coming, and it made me realize that it’s been a year since I came to the Netherlands. How time flies… and I haven’t even had my own Dutch romance yet!
Summer is the happy time for fun, parties, holidays… but it’s also the sad time for graduation, for us international students to stay here or return home, and for all international couples to decide if they’ll stay together or break apart. Right now, all over campus, so many couples are struggling with the heartbreak that comes with saying goodbye to each other.
Shuai, one of my best friends here, must return to China after graduating in August, because she couldn’t find a job in Holland. Her boyfriend, who she’s been with for almost three years, however, chose to stay at TU Delft for a PhD, which means he’ll spend at least four more years here! Two years ago they came to Delft together as MSc students, but now for their future professional careers they’ve made different and difficult decisions. Faced with a four-year separation and the huge geographical distance, what will happen to their relationship? Do they have a future together? Nobody knows. But they’ve promised to wait for each other. Good luck!
And how about getting married now? I’ve heard of several TU Delft couples that plan to get married. Marriage is a way to stay together if one has an opportunity to stay here and the other doesn’t. But can such marriages work out well? I doubt it. Thinking about the life of the one who doesn’t have a job – in most cases the woman – with a TU Delft Master’s degree but having to stay at home, as a housewife, cooking, house-cleaning, endlessly job searching every day…. Marriage under such circumstances really is a sacrifice for love! For love, things are not always easy.
Yes, summer’s a tough time for us international students. “I think I fell in love,” my friend Linda said, looking into my eyes with a serious face. “Really? I replied, “that’s wonderful!” Linda and her boyfriend met at a student party three weeks ago. They’re both exchange students here for one year. Linda’s from the United States; her boyfriend is from Norway.
“But sweetie, what will you do in two weeks when the semester ends?” I ask. “Will you go with him to Norway?”
“No,” Linda replied, “we’ll have to break up. You know, it’s just a matter of time. We may spend this summer together, but finally I’m going back to America.” I could feel the sadness in her heart. “Isn’t that thought painful?” I asked.
“I feel it very hard, but it’s also quite strange,” Linda said. “I feel I’m in much deeper love this time, but maybe it’s also easier because I know I cannot be together with him for long, so I’m not worried or afraid of anything…I’m free just to love!”
So dear readers, summer’s coming, are you ready for it? I’ll be spending the summer in Holland, where I hope to finally have my own hot summer sexy Dutch romance! And if I’m lucky in love, I promise, I’ll tell you all about it next year!
‘Asian Girl’ Yi Ya’s next column will appear in Delta 26
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